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Why do you dwell on things that don’t matter when there are so many things that do? ~ Dennis Sharpe
Let me ask you something: have you ever caught yourself thinking about the past, or so-called “missed opportunities,” rather than focusing on what is right in front of you: the gift of the “right now” or the present.
To help jog your memory, your thinking might sound something like this:
“If I had done ABC, I would have a more successful business.”
“I could be living this luxurious life in another city doing what I love, but…”
“I´d be so happy if only I had a business partner …”
I could keep going, but I’m sure something has hit home and you get the point.
Needless to say, when we are not living in the present and are lamenting over the past, therein, lies the problem.
Many times, we (or, our most dominant dwelling thoughts, rather) get in our (own) way and are a part of the problem of why we feel that we are not living the life we desire.
Essentially, we are dreaming or fantasizing, about a future that may never come to pass.
In my opinion, it takes great courage to be mindful and grateful about “the present” because this is something that you actually have the ability to impact.
Bottom line: No one can be truly happy if they are not present in life’s present moment(s).
When anyone operates in the mode of the past or dwelling on thoughts about so-called “missed opportunities”, he or she feels miserable…like a victim —like everything fantastic is happening for everyone over there.
These are all lies, but it is happening because we are identifying with our negative thoughts regarding what we could have or should have done.
On the contrary, being mindful or living in the present is the opposite of that and challenges are minds to be grateful for the “here and the NOW.”
I have realized that living in the present really is what matters.
Focusing my thoughts on positivity and gratitude of the here and now brings peace and calm to my body and heart.
Moreover, dwelling on these positive thoughts brings positive opportunities my way so my mind is no longer dwelling on missed opportunities or what I could have, should have or would have done in the past.
To that point, I’d like to hear from each of you…what thoughts are you dwelling on?
~ Preston Byrd
Sometimes all it takes to conquer a difficult situation is sheer will and determination.
Not much beats this seemingly superhuman power that allows you to do something extremely difficult when faced with an unbearable challenge. This pure passionate effort can be tappped into and, in many cases, works to help you excel beyond your natural abilities or circumstances.
The extremely great news about willpower is… the power is within YOU. This means, you depend on yourself to ignite this power and there is no need to ask for permission or to rely on others to create the power because it already lives inside of you.
When will stay focused and determined and we never give up on whats before us, we will always come out on top. NEVER GIVE UP!
When life seems blurry, ADJUST YOUR FOCUS. ~ Unknown
Perception is reality and what we see is very important. When we adjust our focus or change the way we see things, rather; what we see changes too.
I am often asked how I manage my businesses, non-profit organization, Operation Help™, coupled with balancing my family roles and responsibilities. By way of explaining why I am driven towards a deliberate focus in everything I do, whether personal or professional, let me tell you a brief story from my years as a youth.
When I was growing up in Memphis, Tennessee, my father gave my older brother and I a weekend chore of maintaining the garden and lawn. My brother’s responsibility was cutting the grass and my responsibility was to ensure the flower beds were always kept neat and cleaned out. If anyone has ever cleaned flower beds before, you understand that it is important to do so properly so you don’t damage the plants.
Well, for a 10-year old (going on 11) who’d rather be riding his bike, watching Saturday morning cartoons or pretending to be Superman, cleaning out the flower beds without damaging plants takes intense focus and concentration. Even the Man of Steel himself might consider this task tedious and time-consuming. That is why for the first 10 times, my father stood along side me to guide the process until he felt comfortable that I could handle this job on my own.
Well, for the most part, I was patient throughout this long and tiresome duty. However, on this one particularly hot summer day of the 80’s, I had no interest in pruning flowers beds, especially when my best friend stopped by to say that he had the new Frogger video for Atari 2600. Of course, in my father’s home it was a “work before play” mentality so I certainly could not think of asking to go check out Frogger before all the flower beds were cleaned out.
So…needless to say, a job that normally takes me 2-4 hours, took me a good 20 minutes and that’s being generous.
Long story short, with effortless grace and success to the tune of over 100,000 points for a first-time player. Yet, I definitely didn’t score HIGH POINTS with my father who came marching over to my friend’s home to get me and ground me for months when he saw that I pulled up ever plant, bud or seed in every flower bed in our lawn.
No, he was not amused by how I maneuvered control of the frog in Frogger to duck and dodge hazards while crossing the busy roads and helping him navigate across the river and there was NO WAY I could dodge the unforgettable scolding from my father that reminds me even until this day that my short-term focus was, not only untimely, but forced me to take more time than ever before in the garden re-planting every morning glory, hydrangea, coneflower, gardenia and daffodil in the most meticulous fashion.
Calming your mental roller coaster and finding focus can boggle even the smartest, most (seemingly) organized person. Sometimes, switching gears, mid-stream can be more destructive, causing you to spend extra time cleaning up the mess. However, focusing your mind can cause the chaos around you to seem as if it isn’t there. If you stay focused and realize that Frogger will be there when you’re done, when you finally get to it, it will be a much better experience and you can truly embrace the high score.
~ Preston Byrd
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